Healing Emotional Wounds - But I Have Needs
1) Healing Emotional Wounds - How many times have you heard that? How many times have you said that? But are they needs, or demands; needs, or desires of the flesh for self-grandiosity? How many needs do you really have? Why, you may reply, “I certainly have need for food, clothing, and shelter. And beside that I have a need to be loved.” What says the Scripture as to what your needs are?
“Martha, Martha, ... you are worried and upset about many things, but only one thing is needed. Mary has chosen the better, and it will not be taken from her.” (Luke 10:41-42, NIV)
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Do you really need food, clothing, and shelter?
“Others were tortured and refused to be released, so that they might gain a better resurrection. Some faced jeers and flogging, while still others were chained and put in prison. They were stoned; they were sawed in two; they were put to death by the sword. They went about in sheepskins and goatskins, destitute, persecuted, and mistreated-the world was not worthy of them. They wandered in deserts and mountains, and in caves and holes in the ground.” (Hebrews 11:35-38, NIV)
Here we have the story of many believers who went without the necessities (needs) of life for the sake of their faith. What did they believe they really needed? They concluded that they did not “need” to be free of pain, and they did not “need” to be free from jail. In enduring the jeers, they concluded that they did not “need” to be respected. By being destitute, they demonstrated that they did not “need” to have money, and they did not “need” fine clothes, or even "need" a place to live. But they did “need” one thing. As the Scripture says, “only one thing is needed”, and they concluded that the “one thing” they truly needed, was Christ. And to have that need met, they forsook all other "needs."
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2) Healing Emotional Wounds - What do you need? Do you need praise, or attention, or ego satisfaction, or respect, or proper consideration, or even physical life itself? No, you need but Christ. You seek the other because you have not yet learned that “If anyone would come after me, he must deny himself and take up his cross daily and follow me” (Luke 9:23, NIV). To take up the cross means to take up death. When your flesh dies and Christ reigns, then your needs will diminish greatly, your pettiness will disappear, and your hurt feelings will be a thing of the past.
But there is one other point that needs to be covered. It is this question: "Do I absolutely always cover sin with my love, like you described above? No, it is neither possible nor desirable to always cover every sin with love. Some sins should be rebuked as Christ made clear in Luke 17. However, if you can, you often should attempt to cover sin with love first. If the magnitude of the sin suggests otherwise, then you should rebuke and seek to bring the other person to repentance for that sin. However, the one thing that you do not do is sulk and feel sorry for yourself. In other words, you do not have "hurt feelings." That is not a Christian option.