Healing Emotional Wounds - What Is The Solution To Hurt Feelings?
1) Healing Emotional Wounds - Having read this far in Hope for Todays Problems, now you know who you are and how important you are. Let’s take a moment to see who Christ is and how important He is. What pattern does Christ set for us? You are, as a Christian, to be like Christ. In having been sinned against, did Christ complain of "hurt feelings?"
Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider others better than yourselves. Each of you should look not only to your own interest, but also to the interest of others. Your attitude should be the same as that of Christ Jesus: Who, being in very nature God, did not consider equality
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How to Heal Hurt Feelings 2
with God something to be grasped, but made himself nothing, taking the very nature of a servant, being made in human likeness. And being found in appearance as a man, he humbled himself and became obedient to death-even death on the cross! (Philippians 2:3-8, NIV)
But, being hurt is different. Being or feeling hurt is active. This is what you choose to do after getting hurt. This is when you choose to feel angry or sorry.
Here you are told that the God of all creation “made Himself nothing.” He took upon Himself “the very nature of a servant,” and “He humbled himself.” Let’s now compare Christ’s character to yours.
In the light of this passage in Philippians, can you not see the importance of being a servant to those who hurt your feelings? Servants dont get hurt feelings. Can you imagine a servant, a slave, coming to his master and complaining you hurt my feelings? What do you think would be the result of such petty whining? The servant would be severely whipped! That being the case, how many slaves do you imagine would go around whining to the master, you hurt my feelings"? None, that were in their right mind.
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2) Healing Emotional Wounds - Suppose one of you had a servant plowing or looking after the sheep. Would he say to the servant when he comes from the field, ‘Come along now and sit down to eat’? Would he not rather say, ‘Prepare my supper, get yourself ready and wait on me while I eat and drink; after that you may eat and drink’? Would he thank the servant because he did what he was told to do? So you also, when you have done everything you were told to do, should say, ‘We are unworthy servants; we have only done our duty.’ (Luke 17:7-10, NIV)
Christ says, imagine a slave working all day in the hot sun and then coming back at night to hear from the master, "Make me supper and wait on me, when you have finished serving me, you can eat yourself.”
Wow! Think about that. Here is this man, bone tired from hard outdoor farm work in the hot Palestinian sun. He drags through the door, and there sits the master in his air-conditioned "study.” He looks at him and says, "Move along now, I’m hungry, fix me a nice meal. After that I want you to stand next to the dinner table with a white towel over your arm and whenever my iced tea glass runs low, I want you to fill it; got that?”
And guess what, he does it! He has to. And after he does it, what does Christ say, “So you also, when you have done everything you were told to do, should say, 'We are unworthy servants; we have only done our duty.’” (Luke 17:7-10, NIV)
Isn’t that statement just amazing?
3) Healing Emotional Wounds - Here is the point. This parable of a servant gives you an idea of how difficult life can be for a slave. So it is with a bondservant of Jesus Christ. You also are called upon to do hard things for the Master’s sake. And you are expected to do hard things; not to whine because life is difficult and people don’t respect you as they should. The slave in Luke 17 certainly was not respected. To make it even worse for those inclined to “get their feelings hurt” Christ goes on to say, “…you also when you have done everything you were told to do, should say, 'We are unworthy servants, we have only done our duty’” (Luke 17:10, NIV). Being patient and unresponsive to the offenses of others does not get you a medal in God’s army; you are expected to do all that; it is your duty.
4) Healing Emotional Wounds - Christ set a pattern of servant hood that we often fail to note in our busy lives. But see how He responded to the sin of others:
…while being reviled, He did not revile in return; while suffering, He uttered no threats, but kept entrusting Himself to Him who judges righteously…. (I Peter 2:23, NASB95)
It says nothing here of Christ having "hurt feelings." Instead we see His servant's heart and God's love in His responses to the sins of others. This is an important lesson. Many of the "hurts" you are experiencing are from the very real sins of others; that is a fact. However, the solution does not lie in feeling sorry for you. In healing emotional wounds, the solution lies in self-denial and love for those that are sinning against you.